Entries Tagged 'Self Improvement' ↓

1. Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak. 
2. He who laughs last thinks slowest. 
3. Those that live by the sword get shot by those who don’t. 
4. Nothing is foolproof to a sufficiently talented fool. 
5. The 50-50-90 rule: Anytime you have a 50-50 chance of getting something right, there’s a 90% probability you’ll get it wrong. 
6. The things that come to those who wait will be the things left by those who got there first. 
7. Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach a man to fish and he’ll sit in a boat all day, drinking beer. 
8. The shin bone is a device for finding furniture in a dark room. 
9. A fine is a tax for doing wrong. A tax is a fine for doing well. 
10. When you go into court, you are putting yourself in the hands of 12 people who weren’t smart enough to get out of jury duty.

Dear God:

Help me not be a perfectionist. (Did I spell that correctly?)

Help me to relax about insignificant details, beginning tomorrow at 7:41:23 a.m. EST.

Help me to not try to run everything — but, if You need some help, please feel free to ask me.

Help me to consider people’s feelings, even if most of them are hypersensitive.

Help me to take responsibility for the consequences of my actions, even though they’re usually not my fault.

Help me to be more laid back, and help me to do it exactly right.

Help me to take things more seriously — especially laughter, parties, and dancing.

Give me patience, and I mean right now!

Help me to finish everything I sta

Help me to keep my mind on one thing — oh, look, a bird — at a time.

Help me to do only what I can, and trust for the rest. And could I get that in writing?

Keep me open to others’ ideas, misguided though they may be.

Help me follow established procedures. Hey, wait — this is wrong …

Help me slow down andnotrushthroughwhatido.

Thank you. Amen

— Author Unknown

Peace.

It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work.

It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.

— Anonymous

Just a few minutes ago, while I was out at lunch, someone left the following comment on the last post. I was about to delete it but thought better of that action. I did not approve it (as it really does not relate to the post at all) but let me copy and paste it here in all its glory:

Author : Ioustinianos (IP: 85.195.123.22 , 85.195.123.22)
E-mail : yourdeath2007@gmail.com
Comment:
You bloated GREEDY sATAN worshiping slothful PIG !
Is that all you can think about you disgusting blemish in the sight of Christ Yashua ?!

You filthy slimy sleazy scumbag , you are a member of that sATANIC jEW club for your own material gain.

Money money money ! You sick sick man , do you know what you are getting yourself into ?

OK. Extremely insightful comment, that. I assume the commenter is referring to my membership in a Masonic Lodge, something that I not only do not hide but of which I am very proud — indeed a quick look at even the front page of my web site brings up that information.

So, what exactly is this person criticising? What is he (or I guess possibly she, although I doubt it) actually complaining about?

Do me a favour, read the previous post first. You will see that I pose the question: if you want to develop some software that can be provided as a service, what would that be? So this person fires back with:

You bloated GREEDY sATAN worshiping slothful PIG !

Ummm. OK. Let’s leave the “sATAN” worshiping part out of it for the moment. Bloated? Greedy? Slothful? Pig? What is this based on? I work hard — have done so all my adult life. I have not been handed anything on a plate; my parents were poor immigrants who worked for minimum wage so that they could afford to support my sister and me through school. I am married with 3 kids, all in school, and so I of necessity need to work to support them and myself. Greedy? I live in an average suburb. I drive a 15-year-old car. Slothful? I work well over 50 hours each week (while on a salary, so no overtime) and I do at least 10 hours of community and charity work each week too.

Is that all you can think about you disgusting blemish in the sight of Christ Yashua ?!

No that is NOT all that I can think about — if it was I would be rich.

Look, anyone can be rich if that is truly the top priority in his life. I don’t want to be rich badly enough to do what it takes. There are other aspects to my life that are far more important to me than mere money or material possessions: my family’s welfare and health, their happiness and well-being, the effect I have on my community and my world. All these things are truly important to me.

I need to be able to be satisfied with an honest answer to this question each and every night before I go to bed: Is every person I came into contact with today better, or at least happier, as a result? If the answer is no, then I have failed to live up to the yardstick that I have set for myself.

Making money is not how I measure my worth or my success. Of course, I do need to make enough so that I can offer my family a reasonable level of comfort and security, but beyond that it just doesn’t matter enough. What the previous blog post was referring to was a feeling that it is time to build a recurring income stream that can free up some time to enable me to become involved in some major, long-term projects that will actually cost me money but which I think will benefit many of the most needy people in my community. I can’t tackle them without sufficient time and funds. That is what this is about, not some desire to be rich. Heck, I am rich in so many ways: I have my health, a loving family, a roof over our heads and enough to eat and stay warm. I don’t need anything more. I don’t want anything more. So this comment:

Money money money ! You sick sick man , do you know what you are getting yourself into ?

well, I’ll just leave that alone.

Now, let’s get back to Freemasonry. The writer uses these terms:

… sATAN worshiping slothful PIG !

… you disgusting blemish in the sight of Christ Yashua

… member of that sATANIC jEW club

… for your own material gain

… do you know what you are getting yourself into ?

Caps-lock-induced dyslexia aside, Satan-worshiping? Satanic Jew Club? Come on now, does anyone still buy into this claptrap? I am not going to go over all this again, not because I can’t but because it has been done so many times before. Look, check out these pages on our own Lodge web site for a starting point, and if you have any sane questions please ask them here (or better yet, phone your nearest lodge and talk to someone — this “secret society” is in the phone book, so they aren’t that secretive!).

For the record, I am a Christian. Many of my brothers are Jewish. Many others are Muslim. A few I know who are Hindu. It doesn’t matter — we are all equal brothers, work together in harmony for the good of our broader community without trying to convert each other. Does this unsettle the commenter? Why? Maybe a little introspection is called for here.

As for my “own material gain”, anyone who knows anything about Freemasonry (or anyone who actually knows a Freemason) will know that being a Freemason costs a man both in terms of time and in money — just ask my wife! There is no other way to put it: if you thought you were going to gain materially from joining Freemasonry, you were very, very wrong. Many times throughout the joining process, each potential and recent member is forcibly reminded of that fact and admonished that seeking personal advantage from membership is not only frowned upon but can lead to discipline, punishment and even expulsion.

So why am I a member of a Freemasons’ Lodge?

Simple: because I was a Freemason in my soul first. Whether by nature or nurture, I fundamentally believe that there is an absolute concept of good and evil, and men know in their innermost being how to recognise it. I believe that good men are good regardless of their religious persuasion. I believe that tolerance, open communication and cooperation are a good and proper way to interact with others. I believe that I have an obligation to render myself of service to the world around me, and that in doing so I am acting in accord with the will of the Divine (whatever name each individual wants to use).

I believe — no, I know — that what I have become by being a member of a Lodge, and the continuing process of personal development and growth, makes me a better father, a better husband, a better employee, a better workmate, a better friend, a better citizen… a better man.

If I didn’t know that, if I didn’t believe it deep where I live, then I would not still be a member after nearly 25 years.

So, let me turn the last quote on the commenter. When you ask me:

do you know what you are getting yourself into ?

I can answer you with a clear, confident and categorical YES.

Do you know anything about this subject at all?

Hopefully, this post will help, although there is a Greek saying that goes like this:

On a deaf man’s door, you can knock forever!

which I suspect is appropriate here.

Why do some people just find it hard to admit they’ve made a mistake? We all do it — heaven knows I have, on many occasions and in many contexts. Yet for some reason, there are those amongst us who feel that any suggestion that they made an error needs to be shouted down forcefully lest they be stigmatised as failures.

A mistake is not a failure. A mistake is an opportunity to learn, to grow, to re-focus, to improve. It reminds us that we are not infallible, and injects a little humility into our souls.

The failure is in not heeding the message that the mistake is trying to convey. Cosmic karma is at work here. The universe starts with a gentle tap on the shoulder trying to get your attention. If that doesn’t work, then a rap across the knuckles comes along, followed by a clip behind the ear. Pay attention to what you are being told, because if you ignore all of these, then the speeding truck is on its way.

I have yet to see a more effective way of dealing with a mistake than simply admitting to it, apologising sincerely to those impacted by it, and thinking about why it happened and what lessons need to be learnt. Not only is this in keeping with the natural operation of the universe, it builds your own moral fibre, and earns you respect from those around you.

Pointing fingers at others, reaching for a scapegoat, making excuses, or just plain claiming you make no more mistakes than others do just doesn’t cut it — not only do you come across to others as someone who lacks integrity, you train your mind to react inappropriately and get further out of sync with the world around.

And that is not where you want to be.

I don’t remember quite how long ago I first read this book, but today I just had to go and pull it off the shelf in my office at work, where it normally lives. Very near to the front, it tells of one study where the authors took two pieces of corporate writing, one in typical corporate-speak, and one straight-talking and clear. The identities of the companies was not evident or otherwise discernable from the content.

They took these two pieces and showed them to a number of people in the local (to them, Atlanta) Starbucks, and asked them to select from a list of 30 words the ones that they would associate with the companies involved. There were 15 "positive" and 15 "negative" words in the list. Interestingly, the Starbucks crowd didn’t like the bull, so the four words most strongly associated with the writer of the corporate-speak were obnoxious, rude, stubborn and unreliable. And none of the 15 "good" words were associated with this company’s literature.

The other piece fared much better — it was associated with the words: likable, energetic, friendly, inspiring and enthusiastic. None of the "negative" words were assoaciated with it.

Let me quote from the book:

The short story is that people find straight talkers likable, and that’s a big deal. In his book ”The Power of Persuasion”, Robert Levine, a professor of psychology, says:

If you could master just one element of personal communication that is more powerful than anything … it is the quality of being likable. I call it the magic bullet, because if your audience likes you, they’ll forgive just about everything else you might do wrong. If they don’t like you, you can hit every rule right on target and it doesn’t matter.

The authors also note that two if the words that were included in the list were "intelligent" and "educated". There was no statistical difference between the straight-talk sample and the bull sample. This means that an attempt to appear smart by (as they put it) using fifty-cent words to make 5-cent points, is pointless — there is simply no payoff for the verbosity.

Quoting again:

The bottom line: Bullshit eats away at your personal capital, while straight talk pays dividends. Invest wisely.

Amen to that!

Today I have endured more double-speak and, well, absolute nonsense than anyone should ever need to be exposed to, because of some fear of being absolutely clear in some communications. A futile attempt at stealth management.

I’ll feel better soon.

Really I will.